MODULE 1

Designed2bIntimate

Intimacy Begins at the Heart

We'll first explore God's design and goal for your marriage and intimacy, and we'll map out the path to Restore and Refresh your marriage.

We'll set you up for success by making some key decisions with the end goal of helping you achieve TOTAL clarity about where you're going and HOW you're going to get there.

Finally, you're going to start your journey towards greater intimacy with your spouse by identifying your greatest obstacle(s) to intimacy and take the first step to overcome them. You'll search your heart and set goals for yourself and your relationship for excellent results.

In this first module, we'll focus on where problems and change always begin - with the heart. At the end, you'll be able to:

• Define & Setting Your Goal of Intimacy
• Identify Your Greatest Obstacles of Intimacy & Begin to Overcome Them
• Understand the Importance of the Heart in Intimacy
• Discover the Key Motives of Your Heart
• Take the First Steps to Restore & Refresh Your Marriage

MODULE 2

Designed2bDifferent

Understanding God-Given Differences

We'll explore how our being created in God's image means we reflect him in how we process information, perceive events, and prioritize various aspects of life and relationships. 

THIS IS SO IMPORTANT! Because I will help you understand how your differences impact your communication and conflicts, and you will get clarity about yourself, your spouse, and the steps to take towards a greater intimacy! 

Additionally, this module includes a unique "Designed2bMine" personality quiz inspired through biblical insights and over 20 years of counseling couples. 

In the second module, we'll focus on how we reflect God's image in how we think, act, and feel. At the end, you'll be able to:

• Understand How God Has Created You and Your Spouse Differently
• Take my unique Designed2bMine Personality Profile
• Recognize Key Disagreement Areas and Why They Occur
• Understand Your Spouse's Heart Better
• Lay a Foundation for Better Communication and Resolving Conflicts

MODULE 3

Designed2bConnected

Communication

Nearly every couple struggles with their communication. Whether miscommunications, misinterpretations, not talking enough, not talking deeply enough, anger, disrespect, unkind words, or the like, we all have some improvement that is needed in this area.

We'll start off by looking at the different communication struggles that are common in marriages and you'll identify and make a plan to overcome your communication struggles.

Next, we'll get you "set" for growth with the four (4) most important foundational steps needed to communicate well: HEARTset, MINDset, EARset (yes, I made that up!), and SKILLset. 

With our 4 Levels of Communication graph, you'll be able to identify the level of communication you and your spouse are at and how you can connect at a deeper level.

Finally, you'll set personal goals to improve your communication and implement this plan in your marriage. At the end of this module, you'll be able to:

• Define & Set Your Goals for Improving Your Communication
• Identify Your Greatest Obstacles in Communication & Begin to Overcome Them Individually and as a Couple
• Build a Deeper Connection Through the Practice & Implementation of the Communication Challenges

MODULE 4

Designed2bRedeemed

Conflict Resolution

Conflict is inevitable and necessary. But how you handle conflict will change the relationship for the better, or for the worse.

Nobody (sane) really likes conflict, but where two or more sinners gather, it's gonna happen. The great thing about conflict is that when we handle it well, it can strengthen the relationship. 

This Module will help you understand your Conflict Resolution Style and take biblical steps to resolve conflicts quicker and with less painful and negative actions. 

Additionally, this module includes steps to take for forgiveness and how to build a stronger connection together and with the Lord through couples' prayer. By the end of the fourth module, you'll be able to:

• Identify Your Conflict Resolution Style and Create A New Biblically-Based Path To Resolving Conflicts 
• Turn Your Quick Reactions into Thoughtful Responses
• Learn the 7 Do's and Don'ts of Conflict
• Begin to Overcome Bitterness Through Forgiveness
• Take Steps to Build Your Marriage Prayer Life Together

MODULE 5

Designed2bONE

Sexual Intimacy

We can't discuss developing intimacy in marriage without addressing your sexual intimacy. Your sexual relationship is a direct reflection of many other areas in your relationship.

This module begins with a Quick(ie) Theology of Sex where I'll give a brief overview of how God has designed your sexual relationship with one another (Hint: It's for pleasure!).

Next, we'll look at some common obstacles to a healthy and vibrant sexual relationship. You'll be able to identify which obstacles are in your way and make some steps to overcome them together.

Finally, as we look at the most common "sex questions" Christian couples ask, you'll take some active steps to improve your sexual relationship with your spouse and move towards the marriage you've always wanted! At the end of this final module, you'll be able to:

• Identify Your Obstacles to a Great Sexual Relationship & Set Your Goals for Improving Your Sex Life
• Better Understand God's Design for Your Sexual Relationship

• Learn and Incorporate Your God-Given Sexual Freedom Rights into Your Relationship

• Make a Sexual "Game Plan" with Your Spouse to Communicate and Improve Your Sexual Relationship on a Regular Basis